Own XMPP/Jabber Server on Debian

1. Installing ejab­berd:

aptitude install ejabberd

2. Configuration:

nano /etc/ejabberd/ejabberd.cfg

3. Find and change the line:

{acl, admin, {user, "YOURNAME", "YOURDOMAIN"}}.

4. Append a little below your domain:

{hosts, ["YOURDOMAIN"]}.

5. Restart ejabberd:

ejabberdctl restart

6. Register an account for yourself:

ejabberdctl register YOURNAME YOURDOMAIN YOURPASSWORD

7. If the ejabberd is on a different server set SRV records:

jid.YOURDOMAIN.TLD. A IPSERVEREJABBERD
_xmpp-client._tcp.YOURDOMAIN.TLD. SRV 10 0 5222 jid.YOURDOMAIN.TLD.
_xmpp-server._tcp.YOURDOMAIN.TLD. SRV 10 0 5269 jid.YOURDOMAIN.TLD.